We all wish to be there for our loved ones but often, life seems to get in the way. Here are 4 ways to delegate in the name of love so you can show up fully in your relationships.
Much of what life is truly about is simply being there for our loved ones. We all crave undivided attention, and it feels good to give it. But with pings, chimes, and all the other interruptions of our daily lives, we are constantly being pulled away from the focused and fulfilling interactions we all love to have. Sometimes we feel so spread thin that we can hardly be there for ourselves, let alone each other.
Being “too busy” isn’t a valid excuse anymore. We’re all too busy. Plus, it feels super lame to tell your loved one that you’re “too busy” to be there for them.
So how can we break free from the “busy” cycle to be more present in our relationships? One place to start is reading Kathy Clayton’s excellent advice right here on The Journal! But today, we’re going a slightly different direction. We’re going to explore how you can delegate in four specific areas to support and nurture love.
Free up your time
When you free up your time, you’ll have fewer things distracting you from being there. You only have so much time and energy on any given day, so free yourself from distraction by delegating whatever doesn’t require your direct attention. Start by identifying what isn’t serving you and find a way to get out of it. Either dismiss yourself entirely from an obligation you don’t really care for (like being part of a group you’re not enjoying) or find a way to delegate your tasks. Like a quick call to cancel a membership, email reminders for clients meetings, or re-purchasing the shampoo you just ran out of. Even the tiniest of tasks start to accrue throughout the day, leaving you with less time to focus on what really matters to you.
Free up their time
When you offer to do something nice to help out a loved one, you’re making it possible for them to focus on what really matters, too. We often watch our loved ones struggling with the same feeling of overwhelm that we struggle with ourselves, and we wish we could help. But maybe it feels like the only two options are to bond over the struggle while they fend for themselves or to take on another task that you don’t have the energy for, either. But, luckily, there’s a third way!
Delegating tasks gives you a way to offer support for your overburdened friends. For instance, one of our members saw that her friend was struggling with moving out of her home in the midst of a divorce. She offered to assist her friend by arranging organizers and movers because she knew we could arrange it on her behalf. Her friend was none-the-wiser that everything had been arranged by a 3rd party. All that mattered was that her friend offered to help and followed through. You can imagine the sense of relief and gratitude she felt at her friend’s kind gesture!
Dedicate time to each other
Our busy lives require carving out time for each other. If it’s not on the calendar, it doesn’t exist. So when we are able to schedule in that much needed time, we want to make the most of it. Sometimes all the two of you need is to curl up on the couch with a yummy beverage and talk for hours. But sometimes, you want to take an adventure together and truly share an experience. Of course, as we all know, setting aside the time to be together is one thing, but organizing what you’ll be doing is another.
Delegating the work part of play is the hack. We love to organize shared adventures. We’ll offer fun ideas, book any reservations, and plan the whole thing out so that all you have to do is show up.
Get them something nice
Time is the most precious gift you can offer someone, but it can also be pretty great to unwrap something every now and again. Kind gestures in the form of a gift offer a beautiful way to stay connected. A thoughtful gift hits all of our brain’s pleasure and reward centers and makes us feel loved by whoever sent it.
Instead of just leaving it in the mental file of “that would be a nice thing to do,” outsource the gift-buying process. The gift is still coming from you, it’s just being executed by someone else. We love to help our members find the perfect gift that connects with the recipient in all the right ways.
If what’s keeping you from spending time with those you love is a scarcity of time and an ever-growing to-do list, let Pursuit Concierge help you find a way to remove those barriers. Nothing is more important than the relationships we grow throughout our lives. Leverage every tool you can to honor your relationships. You’ll be grateful that you did, and so will the people you love.