I’m not going to beat around the bush. Asking for help is a vulnerable experience. But that’s precisely why it’s so meaningful when you do it.
Although our stressors seem so painfully obvious to ourselves, there is no way for others to know what’s burdensome or draining for you – you have to bring them in on it.
Our stressors are often living in secret. Once the people around you know what’s challenging you, you create the opportunity for them to support you.
Starting the conversation is usually all it takes.
Play with these prompts to start lowering the wall:
- I’m feeling overwhelmed and I could use a hand in . . .
- I’ve been trying to do this myself but I feel you may be better equipped.
- Are you available to talk about a collaboration on a project?
- I know you have experience with ___________. Do you have some time to help me with it?
- This isn’t easy for me to say but I trust you and your confidence. Can you help me with . . . ?
- I’m feeling a little in over my head and I’d be grateful for some support. Do you have some time to talk about this project?
- I’m feeling stuck. Is there a way you feel you may be able to help with . . . ?
- How might you approach this project?
- Who do you know what may be able to help me with . . . ?
By opening the conversation with your partner, colleagues, friends, and family, you’re giving others the chance to know how you’re feeling and creating the opportunity for them to offer their best way to support you.
Find the language that feels empowering for you or just sink fully into feeling vulnerable – both will yield the same result: bringing in the support you deserve and desire.
Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”
Put it into action
Practice playing with the language that feels right to you. Pick a task on your list that you would love to delegate this week and bring it up to a friend, colleague, or to us.
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I had a quick question in which I’d like to ask if you don’t mind.
I was curious to know how you center yourself and clear your head before
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Thank you, Marina! I’m glad it resonates with you.
One of the best ways to get my thoughts moving is by sitting down with a piece of paper and a pen and just writing every little thought that comes to mind. I do so without worrying about what’s coming out, just letting it flow. Usually, after doing this for 5 or 10 minutes, I find a thread to follow that I can dive into more deeply.
If that doesn’t work, I find that putting my phone away and going for a walk around the neighborhood can get the juices flowing. I may go with a little notepad in my pocket so when the thoughts start to pop up, I have a way to jot them down so I don’t lose them. Then, without looking at my phone, I settle in with paper and pen to get writing.
A theme, as you may have noticed, is putting the technology away and doing it old school. Maybe this will work for you, too! Give it a whirl and let me know how it goes!
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